I haven't written for a long time here, and I'm working on a large catch up post these last couple of days. I still get lots of mail, however, and I'd say that it's evenly split between other adult children of divorce and parents considering or proceeding with divorce.
Today I quickly want to say very clearly that I believe there are two pitfalls for a family experiencing this kind of trauma, that both are completely avoidable, and my experience leads to believe that failure to do so increases everyone's grief exponentially.
The first is really simple, and unfortunately if you are an adult child, it's totally out of your control. Parents, I am talking to you: